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On Meeting Your Child Again, and Again

Derek Thompson wrote a wonderful essay on what happens when you become a parent:

The baby you bring home from the hospital is not the baby you rock to sleep at two weeks, and the baby at three months is a complete stranger to both. In a phenomenological sense, parenting a newborn is not at all like parenting “a” singular newborn, but rather like parenting hundreds of babies, each one replacing the previous week’s child, yet retaining her basic facial structure. “Parenthood abruptly catapults us into a permanent relationship with a stranger,” Andrew Solomon wrote in Far From the Tree. Almost. Parenthood catapults us into a permanent relationship with strangers, plural to the extreme.

Why It's Still Valuable To Learn To Code

Carson Gross has a good essay on whether junior programmers should still learn to code given how capable AI has become. His core warning to students:

Yes, AI can generate the code for this assignment. Don’t let it. You have to write the code. I explain that, if they don’t write the code, they will not be able to effectively read the code. The ability to read code is certainly going to be valuable, maybe more valuable, in an AI-based coding future. If you can’t read the code you are going to fall into The Sorcerer’s Apprentice Trap, creating systems you don’t understand and can’t control.

And on what separates senior engineers who can use AI well from those who can’t:

Senior programmers who already have a lot of experience from the pre-AI era are in a good spot to use LLMs effectively: they know what ‘good’ code looks like, they have experience with building larger systems and know what matters and what doesn’t. The danger with senior programmers is that they stop programming entirely and start suffering from brain rot.

This maps directly onto what I’ve been writing about with AI for product work and the second brain setup I’ve built. The system works because I spent years writing and reading PRDs, strategy docs, and OKRs—enough to develop actual opinions about what good looks like. You have to do the work first, then the second brain is worth building.

An AI Wake-Up Call

Matt Shumer’s Something Big Is Happening has made the rounds over the last couple of weeks, but just in case you haven’t seen it, I think it’s very much worth reading. He’s an AI startup founder writing for the non-technical people in his life:

AI isn’t replacing one specific skill. It’s a general substitute for cognitive work. It gets better at everything simultaneously. When factories automated, a displaced worker could retrain as an office worker. When the internet disrupted retail, workers moved into logistics or services. But AI doesn’t leave a convenient gap to move into. Whatever you retrain for, it’s improving at that too.

Previous waves of automation always left somewhere to go. The uncomfortable implication here is that the escape routes are closing as fast as they open.

There are too many quotes worth commenting on, but this observation about what we tell our kids feels important:

The people most likely to thrive are the ones who are deeply curious, adaptable, and effective at using AI to do things they actually care about. Teach your kids to be builders and learners, not to optimize for a career path that might not exist by the time they graduate.

Predictions about the pace of change tend to be simultaneously too aggressive and too conservative in ways that are hard to anticipate. But the direction feels right, and the practical advice is sound: use the tools seriously, don’t assume they can’t do something just because it seems too hard, and spend your energy adapting rather than debating whether this is real.

Toolshed, blueprints, and why good agents need good DevEx

Alistair Gray published part two of Stripe’s “Minions” series, going deeper on how they built their internal coding agents. It’s a great read throughout, but three ideas really stood out to me.

First, blueprints. These are workflows that mix deterministic steps with agentic ones:

Blueprints are workflows defined in code that direct a minion run. Blueprints combine the determinism of workflows with agents’ flexibility in dealing with the unknown: a given node can run either deterministic code or an agent loop focused on a task. In essence, a blueprint is like a collection of agent skills interwoven with deterministic code so that particular subtasks can be handled most appropriately.

If you know a step should always happen the same way, don’t let an LLM decide how to do it. Let the agent handle the ambiguous parts, and hardcode the rest (this can also dramatically reduce token cost).

Second, their centralized MCP server:

We built a centralized internal MCP server called Toolshed, which makes it easy for Stripe engineers to author new tools and make them automatically discoverable to our agentic systems. All our agentic systems are able to use Toolshed as a shared capability layer; adding a tool to Toolshed immediately grants capabilities to our whole fleet of hundreds of different agents.

A shared tool layer that all agents can use… 500 tools, one server, hundreds of agents. Very cool idea.

And third, what they call “shifting feedback left”:

We have pre-push hooks to fix the most common lint issues. A background daemon precomputes lint rule heuristics that apply to a change and caches the results of running those lints, so developers can usually get lint fixes in well under a second on a push.

If you can catch a problem before it hits CI, do it there. A sub-second lint fix on push is better than a 10-minute CI failure, whether you’re a person or an LLM burning tokens.

So much of Stripe’s agent success is built on top of investments they made for human developer productivity. Good dev environments, fast feedback loops, shared tooling. The agents benefit from all of it, and developers remain in control.

Project Brains: Organizing Complex Initiatives for AI-Assisted Work

I’ve written before about how I use AI for product work and how that workflow evolved with slash commands and skills. This post focuses on how to maintain context for complex, long-running projects.

The Problem: Context Fragmentation

When I’m working on a major initiative, relevant information ends up scattered everywhere: PRDs in one tool, tickets in another, meeting notes in a third, plus emails and chat threads. Every time I return to a project after a few days, I spend time reconstructing where things stand.

AI assistants can make this worse because each conversation starts fresh. I can reference files, but the model doesn’t know which files matter for this project, what decisions we’ve already made, or what questions remain open. I end up re-explaining context that should be obvious.

Project brains solve this by creating a dedicated folder for each major initiative with a standard structure that both humans and AI can navigate.

What a Project Brain Looks Like

The structure looks like this:

projects/[project-name]/
├── CONTEXT.md        # The hub: status, stakeholders, decisions, open questions
├── artifacts/        # PRDs, specs, designs, one-pagers
├── decisions/        # Decision logs with rationale and alternatives
├── research/         # Customer feedback, data analysis, technical investigation
└── meetings/         # Meeting notes related to this project

The CONTEXT.md file is a living document that answers the questions I’d need to answer every time I pick up a project:

  • What’s the current status?
  • Who are the stakeholders and what do they care about?
  • What decisions have we made and why?
  • What questions are still open?
  • Where are the relevant artifacts?

When I start a conversation about a project, I point the AI to the project folder. It reads CONTEXT.md first, then can drill into specific artifacts as needed. The model immediately knows the project state without me explaining it.

A Real Example

Say I’m working on adding observability to an internal platform—something that needs coordination across multiple teams over several months. The CONTEXT.md includes:

  • Quick reference table: Status, PM, engineering lead, target dates, links to the PRD and relevant tickets. Everything I’d need to orient myself.
  • Problem statement: A clear articulation of the user pain. In this case: “Platform incidents go undetected until users report them, and debugging takes hours due to lack of visibility.”
  • Success metrics with baselines and targets: Things like uptime targets, reduction in mean time to resolution, and alert accuracy. These anchor every conversation about scope.
  • Key decisions made: A table showing what was decided, when, why, and what alternatives we considered. When someone asks “why aren’t we including component X in v1?”, the answer is already documented.
  • Open questions: A checklist of unresolved issues. This prevents the AI from assuming things are settled when they’re not.
  • Links: Direct paths to the PRD, spec, analysis docs, and related pages.

The decisions/ folder contains detailed decision logs for significant choices. The research/ folder holds whatever analysis informed the project direction. The meetings/ folder captures sync notes that would otherwise disappear into Gemini notes in a Google Drive… somewhere.

When to Create a Project Brain

Not every task needs this treatment. I create a project brain when:

  • The work spans multiple weeks or months. Short-term tasks don’t need the overhead.
  • Multiple stakeholders are involved. If I need to coordinate with other teams, having a single source of context helps.
  • Decisions require documented rationale. If someone might ask “why did you do it this way?” later, a decision log is worth the investment.
  • The project crosses team boundaries. Cross-functional initiatives benefit from dedicated context that doesn’t live in any one team’s space.

For simpler work, I use a flatter folder structure with documents organized by type. Project brains are for the complex initiatives where context fragmentation is a real cost.

How AI Uses Project Brains

The payoff comes when I’m working with AI on project-specific tasks. A few examples:

  • Preparing for a meeting: “Read the CONTEXT.md in the [project] folder. I have a spec review meeting tomorrow. What are the open questions I should raise?”
  • Drafting an update: “Based on the project context, draft a status update for leadership. Focus on progress since the start of the month and remaining blockers.”
  • Decision analysis: “We need to decide whether to include [component] in scope. Read the research folder and the current CONTEXT.md. What would you recommend and why?”

The AI knows the project history, the stakeholders, the constraints. Its recommendations are grounded in documented context rather than generic best practices.

Maintaining the Project Brain

The value depends on keeping CONTEXT.md current. I’ve found a few practices help:

  • Update after significant events. When a decision is made, a meeting happens, or the status changes, update the file immediately. “I’ll do it later” means it won’t happen. LLMs are great at making these updates, so you can simply say “update relevant files based on the session we just concluded.”
  • Move open questions to resolved. When a question gets answered, don’t delete it. Mark it resolved and note the answer. This preserves the reasoning trail.
  • Link, don’t duplicate. CONTEXT.md should point to artifacts, not contain them. Keep PRDs in the artifacts folder. Keep meeting notes in the meetings folder. The context file is a hub, not a repository.

Scaffolding New Projects

I have a slash command that scaffolds new project brains:

/new-project platform-observability

This creates the folder structure, generates a CONTEXT.md from a template, and fills out a rough draft based on whatever context I provide. Removing the friction of setup means I’m more likely to actually use the system. You can view the command here.

The template includes the standard sections (Quick Reference, Problem Statement, Success Metrics, etc.) with placeholder text. I fill in what I know and mark other sections as TBD. Even an incomplete project brain is more useful than scattered notes.

What I’ve Learned

A few observations from using this approach:

  • Structure beats volume. A well-organized project brain with sparse content is more useful than a folder full of undifferentiated documents. The AI (and future me) can navigate structure. It can’t navigate chaos.
  • Decision logs compound. Every decision I document now saves time later. When stakeholders ask “why didn’t we do X?”, I can point to a decision log instead of reconstructing my reasoning from memory.
  • CONTEXT.md is for humans too. I originally built this for AI assistance, but I reference these files constantly in my own work. The discipline of maintaining project context helps me stay oriented, not just the AI.
  • The folder structure is flexible. Some projects need more subfolders (like research/customer-interviews/). Some need fewer. The template is a starting point, not a requirement.

This approach requires discipline to maintain, and the upfront setup takes time. But for complex initiatives where context fragmentation is a real problem, project brains have been worth the investment. The AI becomes a more useful collaborator when it has access to the same context I do.

I’m still iterating on the structure. I suspect the template will look different six months from now as I learn what sections actually get used and which ones I skip every time. The point isn’t to get the folder structure perfect, but to stop losing context between conversations and start building on what you already know.

The A.I. Disruption Has Arrived, and It Sure Is Fun

Paul Ford writes about vibe coding for the NYT (gift link) and what happens when software suddenly becomes cheap and fast to ship:

There are many arguments against vibe coding through A.I. It is an ecological disaster, with data centers consuming billions of gallons of water for cooling each year; it can generate bad, insecure code; it creates cookie-cutter apps instead of real, thoughtful solutions; the real value is in people, not software. All of these are true and valid. But I’ve been around too long. The web wasn’t “real” software until it was. Blogging wasn’t publishing. Big, serious companies weren’t going to migrate to the cloud, and then one day they did.

And then he brings it home in a way that continues to make him one of my favorite web writers:

The simple truth is that I am less valuable than I used to be. It stings to be made obsolete, but it’s fun to code on the train, too. And if this technology keeps improving, then everyone who tells me how hard it is to make a report, place an order, upgrade an app or update a record — they could get the software they deserve, too. That might be a good trade, long term.

We can grieve what we lost, while also being optimistic about the future AI is unlocking for all of us. It’s uncomfortable, but that’s ok, all technological shifts are.

The Father-Daughter Divide

Isabel Woodford has a research-heavy essay in The Atlantic about why dads and daughters crave closeness but struggle to find it. 28% of American women are estranged from their father, and even where relationships are intact, they tend to be thinner—more transactional, less emotionally honest—than daughters want.

At the root of the modern father-daughter divide seems to be a mismatch in expectations. Fathers, generally speaking, have for generations been less involved than mothers in their kids’ (and especially their daughters‘) lives. But lots of children today expect more: more emotional support and more egalitarian treatment. Many fathers, though, appear to have struggled to adjust to their daughters’ expectations. The result isn’t a relationship that has suddenly ruptured so much as one that has failed to fully adapt.

And the psychological explanation that cuts deepest:

“What generates closeness is another person’s vulnerability,” Coleman explained, and dads may not be ready for that.

Daughters aren’t asking for grand gestures or dramatic change—they’re asking for their fathers to show up emotionally. Which turns out to be hard for a lot of men who were raised to see that kind of openness as weakness.

The AI baseline has moved

Geoffrey Huntley wrote about what happens when people finally “get” AI:

If you’re having trouble sleeping because of all the things that you want to create, congratulations. You’ve made it through to the other side of the chasm, and you are developing skills that employers in 2026 are expecting as a bare minimum.

The only question that remains is whether you are going to be a consumer of these tools or someone who understands them deeply and automates your job function? Trust me, you want to be in the latter camp because consumption is now the baseline for employment.

Knowing how to use these tools is no longer a differentiator. The gap is between people who consume AI outputs and people who understand the systems well enough to build on top of them.

For product managers, this means that prompting ChatGPT for a first draft doesn’t count as an AI skill anymore. The question is whether you can wire together agents, automate your own workflows, and spot opportunities others miss because they’re still thinking in manual processes.

The Jevons Paradox and the Future of Knowledge Work

I keep thinking about this essay by Mike Fisher about what happens when automation makes work easier. His central argument challenges the assumption that’s baked into most AI-and-jobs discourse:

In every domain where automation becomes powerful, the pattern remains consistent. Human expertise becomes more valuable because the total volume of meaningful work increases. Early fears of automation nearly always assume a fixed amount of work being redistributed. But work is not fixed. Work expands when constraints are removed.

He anchors this on the Jevons Paradox—the 19th century observation that improved steam engine efficiency led to more coal consumption, not less. And then he traces the pattern through radiology, where the number of US radiologists grew from 30,723 in 2014 to 36,024 in 2023, despite Hinton’s 2016 prediction that deep learning would make them obsolete within five years.

He concludes:

AI will reshape the profession, but only in the sense that cars reshaped transportation or spreadsheets reshaped finance. Not by eliminating the field, but by expanding its scope. Not by reducing labor, but by elevating it. Not by shrinking opportunity, but by multiplying it. The world does not need fewer people who understand systems. It needs far more of them.

I find this framing useful because it shifts the question from “will AI take my job?” to “how will the work change as the volume increases?” That’s a much more interesting thing to figure out (which is also why I have been so focused on expanding my Product Second Brain).

Why "Correction of Error" Gets Incidents (and Product Failures) Wrong

I’ve covered “root cause” thinking in incident reviews before, and Lorin Hochstein takes aim at a related issue: AWS’s “Correction of Error” terminology:

I hate the term “Correction of Error” because it implies that incidents occur as a result of errors. As a consequence, it suggests that the function of a post-incident review process is to identify the errors that occurred and to fix them. I think this view of incidents is wrong, and dangerously so: It limits the benefits we can get out of an incident review process.

What makes his critique compelling is the observation that production systems are full of defects that never cause outages:

If your system is currently up (which I bet it is), and if your system currently has multiple undetected defects in it (which I also bet it does), then it cannot be the case that defects are a sufficient condition for incidents to occur. In other words, defects alone can’t explain incidents.

This applies to product work too. When users report problems, our instinct is to find “the bug” and fix it. But often the bug has been there for months—what changed is the context around it. A new user flow, a spike in traffic, a feature interaction we didn’t anticipate. If we stop at “fixed the bug,” we miss the chance to understand why the system let that failure through in the first place.